Well like if I post a request I don’t have anyone commenting on it
Maybe, and I mean this in a nice way they don't see the point? I mean it could just be they see your request, and either do, or don't decide to message/email etc for an RP, and don't see any reason to leave a comment?
It's a mutual feeling for me as well, sadly. Things seem to have changed a lot from when I used to write, a few years ago. It sort of makes your head spin.
The reason I cannot get role-plays to last is my own fault. My main problem is that I don't really get angry, but I get irritated about some things and every once in a blue moon by irritation bubbles over and I hit the send button without thinking.
It really is not a very common occurrence it's like I have to be really pushed over the edge in order for it to happen but after that it's like no apology is ever good enough.
I remember one time I had this partner and I love animals, and I don't want to brag but I know a lot about animals well she tried to give me a tip about my character and I didn't go off on her. I didn't respond by cussing her out and calling her stupid and telling her not to ever correct me again.
I just got a little snappy. It was just a brief "Hey, I don't like that!"
And I also apologized because I wanted her to know that while I was upset about the action it did not mean that I disliked her as a person. It was nothing against her personally, there's no way that she could have known that she had struck a pet peeve of mine and I was wanting her to know that I was not upset at her.
So she goes quiet on me for like 2 days and in that time I have no idea what to do. I reiterated my apology to her, and finally I just figured okay I've apologized enough so maybe she's just busy.
Well I went ahead and sent her another message asking you know how things were going and if she was doing all right.
She flips out on me and tells me about how I had a really bad attitude with her.
All because I got a little irritated about something.
Apparently that was all she needed to decide that I obviously have some kind of a super bad attitude.
Even though 90% of the time I'm actually a very polite, doormat kind of person.
Still though it was my fault. I should have just held my tongue. It's happened again with a couple of other partners as well.
My stress boils over, I end up saying something that I'm very regretful of, but after I've already said it no apology is ever good enough.
I decided to elaborate further. If I had to rate a 1-10 scale.
8ish of 10 RP's don't work for me because of the ghosting problem.
1-2 of 10 don't work because I ended up saying the wrong thing, and ticking my partner off...
And about 1-2 of 10 don't work because my partner and I get along, but we aren't compatible writers.
Anyway I just wanted to make it clear that I don't have some constant attitude problem. I just on occasion have poor impulse control, which I really do feel guilty over.
