Huge pet peeve

[rpeeve]

My biggest RP pet peeve is that people are judgemental. I screw up once, just once that's all it takes to fuck up an otherwise great partnership. I could have an amazing partner, and then because I have a little slip, because of a bad day, or a pet peeve of mine was triggered...and it's all screwed. After that things just aren't the same.

It's like I have to be fun, engaging, positive, receptive, etc all the freaking time. I'm sorry I sometimes have bad days, and need to vent. And I'm sorry that sometimes I get irritated when pet peeves of mine are pushed. But this does NOT make me a bad person. In fact I'm often the first one to apologize for acting out of line. And yet because of that 1 time where I made a mistake, everything is flushed.

I needed to get that off my chest.

[Mischievous Minx]

I'm going to look at both sides of this situation because I can see both. On your end, I can understand that there are days that aren't good and therefore you're not in the best mood when communicating with someone. I also understand that there are certain things a partner might do that can tick you off. May I make a suggestion? Perhaps you should inform your partner of your pet peeves before you begin speaking with one another. I say this because maybe the person is unaware that whatever it is that bothers you is bothersome. If they choose to ignore this or simply do so by accident, just give them a soft reminder; if it persists then I would simply cease contact with the person. Also, might I add that if you are not feeling up to speak, and feel upset a day why not take a break from responding. Don't reply right away, when you cool off you can resume replying. Just tell your partner that you had an off day. I'll tell you now that in this community that if you don't seem engaged in the roleplay, or appear standoffish people will cease contact with you. That is why I suggest establishing some kind of ground rules first, and then even taking a day in-between to cool off until you're ready to speak.

[Answer]

I do. I do tell people my peeves ahead of time.

[Mischievous Minx]

As you should. However, if someone slips up simply give them a soft reminder. If you truly wish for the partnership to work then put that person on a three chance basis. If they continue to disregard your terms then cease contact. You don't owe them anything. It might be hard to do so, but in the end, you're going to feel better. It's no good to continue talking to someone who upsets you. But remember that if there is ever a day where you're not up for talking, you're not obliged to. Take a day or longer to cool off and then return to the discussion. Inform your partner of what happened and if they can't understand that then again cease contact. Doing this will hopefully stop any misunderstandings between you and potential partners. The number one turn- off for a potential partner is someone who isn't receptive or engaging in the discussion.