Post by RPAdvisory on Jun 27, 2018 20:22:36 GMT
Hello everyone. Today I wish to talk about something that I have been studying for quite a while so I think I'm pretty well covered in it.
MBTI and specifically I want to discuss it from a role playing point. And sort of you know maybe help you understand your partners better. Maybe even understand yourself better.
There are some types I will be skipping over simply because it's pretty uncommon for certain mbti types to actually be interested in role-playing. This does not mean I am trying to skimp on anyone I'm just trying to stick more to personality types that I have noticed actually tend to role play.
1. ISFJ - It's okay for you to speak up. A common problem I run into with people of this personality type is that they will let you walk all over them and will either flat-out disappear on you without ever saying what the problem was or they will build up a ton of resentment and suddenly go off on you as if you've been the problem the whole time. This is due to their strong Si, and secondary Fe. Due to this and they are often extreme people pleasers and usually when they do flip out on someone they're often coming down 10 times as hard on themselves for getting mad in the first place. Anyway what I'm trying to say here is that it's totally okay to speak up if there's something you don't like. However, what you have to understand is that just because you speak up does not mean that the person you're talking to is immediately going to give in to whatever you might be wanting them to do. So when you do speak up on something if the person you're talking to tells you no then try to evaluate if it's really important enough to argue over. Also another point on the Si thing. Just because someone does not have a super memory like you do does not mean that they are being irresponsible, or lazy when they ask you something that you had previously said already.
ENFP - at first I was going to a group in the NPs together but I think I'm going to separate them. That being said there is one common thing they have. Ne. Also known as extraverted intuition. Now the biggest problem overall with people of the NP personality types, is that they tend to talk a whole lot, and often they start getting upset because they will ask someone four or five questions in the same email and then get mad when the person only answers one or two of what they asked. All of them tend to have an issue where they will send multiple questions and then when their partner only answered one of them they will immediately say to their partner "You only answered one of my questions." Another common issue with people of this type is that they tend to beat subjects into the ground. And because of this they tend to get exasperated at people who break off of a subject and start talking about something else. Yes it is impressive that you are able to talk about a single subject for hours on end coming up with many different creative ideas for it but some people find that a little annoying and want the subject to come to a close. Now for ENFP in specific they tend to have a problem with being intrusive. this is not something that they mean to do, but it's basically a reflex they have. Out of all the personality types they tend to be the ones who within minutes of knowing someone will start asking stuff like where they live at, where they work, do they have any pets and just in general a whole bunch of questions about their personal life.
INFP - alright for INFPs in specific, there are besides the common Ne problem two major issues. The first is that a lot of people this type tend to come off as emotionally unstable. They will be all happy and sunshine one minute and then the next minute they are pulling the rug out from under you and acting like you are the worst person ever. Now the second issue I've tended to notice with people this type is that every so often they will kind of go off on these rants about how they see the world and how if everyone just thought about things like they did that we wouldn't have whatever issues they are currently having. And what I want you to understand here is that your passion is admirable, but these pants you go off on are completely subjective. You're basing things on your feelings rather than objective facts. Idealism is great, but sometimes you've gotta come down from your space station.
ISFP - Similar to INFP but less so, on occasion they do tend to go off on rants of this is how the world should be. Now in general I tend to get along pretty well with people of this type. However they tend to have a less extreme problem of what their extroverted counterparts the ESFP do. Which is people in the SP class on some level they need to be entertained. They need things to be different, and fun and exciting and when they aren't getting this they have a problem with boredom. A thing I can say about people in the SP class is that their true passion lies in doing something with another person. They will not really enjoy writing as much as an INFP will but they will love writing with someone they consider a friend.SPs in my opinion most need someone to be their friend. Which is unfortunate because they all have weak Ni. That means introverted intuition. This straight when it is weak which it always is in people of the SP class, causes them too often misinterpret how others are going to act or what others are actually feeling. I actually forget the name of the movie but there's this movie where this girl who is a very clear ESFP is having a bad day and even though she had money to buy a dress the ladies at the store were treating her as if she was just a poor nobody. So when she got back to her hotel and was being hassled by the manager after explaining what was wrong to him she still assumed that he was going to call the cops and kick her out of the hotel even though he was actually helping her. This is just a common problem that they tend to experience when they aren't feeling well. When the SP is under stress they tend to start using their week intuition more and because it is a weak function it's just not something they're very good at, and due to that they tend to start seriously misguessing what others think about them. Often when under stress they will start making declarations about how other people must completely despise them.
INFJ - due to their introspective nature it's often hard to actually come at INFJs with anything because often they pretty much know what all their flaws are. So everything I'm going to say here anyone who is an INFJ is just going to be like "Well duh I knew that already." However the first thing I want to say is that other people actually can be just as deep and reflective as you are. If you have serious thoughts about things like the nature of humanity, the meaning of life Etc while other people may not think about the same things you do that does not mean that they cannot think just as deeply and surprisingly enough you actually can just bring up to people and see if it's something that they want to talk about. Also I would encourage you to try and avoid falling into snowflake syndrome. You are indeed special, and unique just as every other human being is. However INFJs tend to take a little bit further where they might believe everyone a special they at times will believe that they are just a little bit more special. This is more true of course with unhealthy people of this type and not only will they think that they are just deeper and more special than everyone else is but they'll also deliberately, defy any attempts that other people might have at trying to understand them so that they can get to feel special. Of course as an INFJ you know this stuff already.
In general trait related stuff to go over;
High Ne - try to give the other person a chance to talk as well. And again just try not to ask so many questions at the same time.
High Si - well it is nice that you hold on to Traditional Values about how things should be you have to understand that not everyone is going to have the same values as you do.
Weak Ne - also an aspect of people with high level Si is that they tend to have weak extraverted intuition which means that they often see the future in very catastrophic terms. Where they don't like moving forward without everything being perfect. You're not going to know how something will work out until you actually try it. Just because you have a partner that may start off similar to another partner that things did not work out with does not mean that things will go poorly with your new partner.
High Se/Low Ni - Try to stop bouncing all over the place. I understand that you don't want to get bored but you have to understand that your partner probably gets exasperated when you switch between 10 different topics in 2 minutes. And on the subject of the weak introverted intuition try to remember that if someone has been being nice to you for quite some time that they're probably not going to be thinking that you are the scum of the earth after one little slip-up. Most of the time they are going to be understanding.
High Ni - not much to say here just try to remember that other people do think pretty deeply about stuff too.
Fe in general - well this is indeed and more of an ISFJ thing it does happen at times with INFJ as well. Because extraverted feeling is all about social harmony people who have it in high doses will either tend to be extremely submissive, as noted with ISFJ, or they try to enforce a code on how to act with other people that they meet.
Anyway I hope this is helpful at least on some level.
MBTI and specifically I want to discuss it from a role playing point. And sort of you know maybe help you understand your partners better. Maybe even understand yourself better.
There are some types I will be skipping over simply because it's pretty uncommon for certain mbti types to actually be interested in role-playing. This does not mean I am trying to skimp on anyone I'm just trying to stick more to personality types that I have noticed actually tend to role play.
1. ISFJ - It's okay for you to speak up. A common problem I run into with people of this personality type is that they will let you walk all over them and will either flat-out disappear on you without ever saying what the problem was or they will build up a ton of resentment and suddenly go off on you as if you've been the problem the whole time. This is due to their strong Si, and secondary Fe. Due to this and they are often extreme people pleasers and usually when they do flip out on someone they're often coming down 10 times as hard on themselves for getting mad in the first place. Anyway what I'm trying to say here is that it's totally okay to speak up if there's something you don't like. However, what you have to understand is that just because you speak up does not mean that the person you're talking to is immediately going to give in to whatever you might be wanting them to do. So when you do speak up on something if the person you're talking to tells you no then try to evaluate if it's really important enough to argue over. Also another point on the Si thing. Just because someone does not have a super memory like you do does not mean that they are being irresponsible, or lazy when they ask you something that you had previously said already.
ENFP - at first I was going to a group in the NPs together but I think I'm going to separate them. That being said there is one common thing they have. Ne. Also known as extraverted intuition. Now the biggest problem overall with people of the NP personality types, is that they tend to talk a whole lot, and often they start getting upset because they will ask someone four or five questions in the same email and then get mad when the person only answers one or two of what they asked. All of them tend to have an issue where they will send multiple questions and then when their partner only answered one of them they will immediately say to their partner "You only answered one of my questions." Another common issue with people of this type is that they tend to beat subjects into the ground. And because of this they tend to get exasperated at people who break off of a subject and start talking about something else. Yes it is impressive that you are able to talk about a single subject for hours on end coming up with many different creative ideas for it but some people find that a little annoying and want the subject to come to a close. Now for ENFP in specific they tend to have a problem with being intrusive. this is not something that they mean to do, but it's basically a reflex they have. Out of all the personality types they tend to be the ones who within minutes of knowing someone will start asking stuff like where they live at, where they work, do they have any pets and just in general a whole bunch of questions about their personal life.
INFP - alright for INFPs in specific, there are besides the common Ne problem two major issues. The first is that a lot of people this type tend to come off as emotionally unstable. They will be all happy and sunshine one minute and then the next minute they are pulling the rug out from under you and acting like you are the worst person ever. Now the second issue I've tended to notice with people this type is that every so often they will kind of go off on these rants about how they see the world and how if everyone just thought about things like they did that we wouldn't have whatever issues they are currently having. And what I want you to understand here is that your passion is admirable, but these pants you go off on are completely subjective. You're basing things on your feelings rather than objective facts. Idealism is great, but sometimes you've gotta come down from your space station.
ISFP - Similar to INFP but less so, on occasion they do tend to go off on rants of this is how the world should be. Now in general I tend to get along pretty well with people of this type. However they tend to have a less extreme problem of what their extroverted counterparts the ESFP do. Which is people in the SP class on some level they need to be entertained. They need things to be different, and fun and exciting and when they aren't getting this they have a problem with boredom. A thing I can say about people in the SP class is that their true passion lies in doing something with another person. They will not really enjoy writing as much as an INFP will but they will love writing with someone they consider a friend.SPs in my opinion most need someone to be their friend. Which is unfortunate because they all have weak Ni. That means introverted intuition. This straight when it is weak which it always is in people of the SP class, causes them too often misinterpret how others are going to act or what others are actually feeling. I actually forget the name of the movie but there's this movie where this girl who is a very clear ESFP is having a bad day and even though she had money to buy a dress the ladies at the store were treating her as if she was just a poor nobody. So when she got back to her hotel and was being hassled by the manager after explaining what was wrong to him she still assumed that he was going to call the cops and kick her out of the hotel even though he was actually helping her. This is just a common problem that they tend to experience when they aren't feeling well. When the SP is under stress they tend to start using their week intuition more and because it is a weak function it's just not something they're very good at, and due to that they tend to start seriously misguessing what others think about them. Often when under stress they will start making declarations about how other people must completely despise them.
INFJ - due to their introspective nature it's often hard to actually come at INFJs with anything because often they pretty much know what all their flaws are. So everything I'm going to say here anyone who is an INFJ is just going to be like "Well duh I knew that already." However the first thing I want to say is that other people actually can be just as deep and reflective as you are. If you have serious thoughts about things like the nature of humanity, the meaning of life Etc while other people may not think about the same things you do that does not mean that they cannot think just as deeply and surprisingly enough you actually can just bring up to people and see if it's something that they want to talk about. Also I would encourage you to try and avoid falling into snowflake syndrome. You are indeed special, and unique just as every other human being is. However INFJs tend to take a little bit further where they might believe everyone a special they at times will believe that they are just a little bit more special. This is more true of course with unhealthy people of this type and not only will they think that they are just deeper and more special than everyone else is but they'll also deliberately, defy any attempts that other people might have at trying to understand them so that they can get to feel special. Of course as an INFJ you know this stuff already.
In general trait related stuff to go over;
High Ne - try to give the other person a chance to talk as well. And again just try not to ask so many questions at the same time.
High Si - well it is nice that you hold on to Traditional Values about how things should be you have to understand that not everyone is going to have the same values as you do.
Weak Ne - also an aspect of people with high level Si is that they tend to have weak extraverted intuition which means that they often see the future in very catastrophic terms. Where they don't like moving forward without everything being perfect. You're not going to know how something will work out until you actually try it. Just because you have a partner that may start off similar to another partner that things did not work out with does not mean that things will go poorly with your new partner.
High Se/Low Ni - Try to stop bouncing all over the place. I understand that you don't want to get bored but you have to understand that your partner probably gets exasperated when you switch between 10 different topics in 2 minutes. And on the subject of the weak introverted intuition try to remember that if someone has been being nice to you for quite some time that they're probably not going to be thinking that you are the scum of the earth after one little slip-up. Most of the time they are going to be understanding.
High Ni - not much to say here just try to remember that other people do think pretty deeply about stuff too.
Fe in general - well this is indeed and more of an ISFJ thing it does happen at times with INFJ as well. Because extraverted feeling is all about social harmony people who have it in high doses will either tend to be extremely submissive, as noted with ISFJ, or they try to enforce a code on how to act with other people that they meet.
Anyway I hope this is helpful at least on some level.